Desire vs. Discipline: Making Decisions Over Feelings

Navigating the Intersection of Aspiration and Action

Welcome to a thought-provoking journey where we dissect a vital component of personal and professional development: the dichotomy between desire and discipline. This exploration is inspired by Monique de Maio’s insightful reflections on making decisions over feelings, a concept echoed by Jess Sims from Peloton.

The Battle Within: Desire Meets Discipline

At some point, we all face a familiar internal dialogue: “I know I should, but I just don’t feel like it.” This is where desire and discipline collide. Desire represents our aspirations and dreams, the things we yearn for deeply. Discipline, on the other hand, is the structured approach, the consistent effort required to turn these dreams into reality.

Decision Over Feeling: A Crucial Shift

Monique de Maio emphasizes a critical shift in mindset – from feeling to decision. Life, as we know, isn’t always accommodating. We often need to push through resistance and discomfort to achieve our goals. It’s not about waiting for the right mood to strike or for a wave of motivation. It’s about making a conscious decision to pursue our goals, regardless of our current emotional state.

Micro-Decisions Lead to Macro Results

One of the key takeaways from Monique’s discourse is the concept of micro-decisions leading to macro accomplishments. Every grand achievement is a culmination of numerous small choices and actions. These micro-decisions, made consistently, are what propel us towards our larger goals. It’s the daily decision to work out, to study a new language, or to work on a project that cumulatively leads to significant progress.

Integrity with Self: The Ultimate Discipline

A resonant point raised by Monique is the notion of maintaining integrity with oneself. Breaking promises to ourselves can be as detrimental, if not more so, than breaking promises to others. When we set a goal and commit to it, we’re essentially making a promise to ourselves. Upholding this promise is a discipline in itself – it’s about aligning our actions with our decisions, even when it’s uncomfortable or inconvenient.

1. Acknowledge the Resistance: Recognize when you’re feeling reluctant or unmotivated. Acknowledgment is the first step to overcoming.

2. Set Realistic Goals: Break down your aspirations into achievable, daily tasks. This makes the journey less daunting and more manageable.

3. Create a Routine: A structured routine helps in automating decisions, reducing the mental load of choosing to act every time.

4. Celebrate Small Wins: Acknowledge and celebrate every small victory along the way. This builds momentum and reinforces your commitment.

5. Remind Yourself of the End Goal: Keep your ultimate goal in sight. Reminding yourself of why you started can be a powerful motivator.

Conclusion: Embrace the Journey

Desire vs. Discipline is not just about achieving goals; it’s about the journey toward becoming a person who honors commitments to oneself. It’s about transforming from someone who waits for the right feeling to someone who decisively acts towards their ambitions. This journey, filled with its unique challenges and triumphs, is where real growth happens.

Remember, in the words of Monique de Maio, “If it’s important to you, then reframe the discussion. It’s not a feeling, it’s a decision, it’s a choice.” Let’s choose to be disciplined, let’s choose to be relentless in our pursuit of goals, and most importantly, let’s choose to be true to our commitments to ourselves. Consider the possibilities that open up when we make decisions over feelings. Make it a great day!

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